They're Gone, One After Another.

Attending a friend's funeral is not a thing anyone could take it, especially when the deceased is more than just another one of your hi-bye friends. You'll think of the moments you had with him/her. And the next thing you'll notice your eyes and nose are grew red & the tears are on full throttle to roll out into action.

It was barely after midnight on the 6th of February, as I was preparing for my presentation, an instant message from Jiun Kei popped out through MSN messenger.

It goes like this:

06/02/2009

01:17:20

- jiunkei -

yunchi left d

06/02/2009

01:17:22

- jiunkei -

u know rite

06/02/2009

01:17:43

Jun Yen v5

what

06/02/2009

01:17:51

Jun Yen v5

holly shit

06/02/2009

01:17:55

Jun Yen v5

as in...?

06/02/2009

01:17:59

Jun Yen v5

er...

06/02/2009

01:18:04

- jiunkei -

she pass away d

06/02/2009

01:18:10

Jun Yen v5

OMG!!!!

06/02/2009

01:18:33

- jiunkei -

uknowshe got liver cancer rite

06/02/2009

01:18:38

Jun Yen v5

=(

06/02/2009

01:18:48

Jun Yen v5

i knew she had cancer

06/02/2009

01:18:54

Jun Yen v5

gosh

06/02/2009

01:19:04

Jun Yen v5

how did you get to know about it

06/02/2009

01:19:06

Jun Yen v5

?

06/02/2009

01:19:19

- jiunkei -

her condition went unstable on monday

06/02/2009

01:19:19

- jiunkei -

her frens and munsou

06/02/2009

01:19:27

- jiunkei -

she masuk ICU

06/02/2009

01:19:29

Jun Yen v5

i see

06/02/2009

01:19:31

- jiunkei -

today noon i went visit her

06/02/2009

01:19:36

- jiunkei -

suddenly she cant tahan anymore

06/02/2009

01:19:38

Jun Yen v5

sad to hear that

06/02/2009

01:19:49

- jiunkei -

she left

06/02/2009

01:21:13

Jun Yen v5

very sad to hear that

06/02/2009

01:21:17

Jun Yen v5

feel like crying

06/02/2009

01:21:20

Jun Yen v5

damn!

06/02/2009

01:21:48

- jiunkei -

i was there when she leave

06/02/2009

01:22:01

- jiunkei -

the condition was quite horrible

06/02/2009

01:22:12

- jiunkei -

when i reach there, i told her i'm jiun kei, im here to visit u

06/02/2009

01:22:12

- jiunkei -

she wanted to respond, she cant

06/02/2009

01:22:23

- jiunkei -

she can hardly open her eyes

06/02/2009

01:22:23

- jiunkei -

just keep on jerking

06/02/2009

01:22:35

Jun Yen v5

thats bad

06/02/2009

01:23:28

- jiunkei -

at abt 2pm she left

06/02/2009

01:23:56

Jun Yen v5

..

It was so sudden, so shocking. I felt like the world's tumbling down on me. My mood turned from idle to gloomy at that instance.

I still could clearly remember the moment where we had tuition classes and playing around the classes.
Why? She's such a smart, cheerful, positive & hardworking girl, although she can be quite mischievous at times. Just celebrated her 20th birthday on the 19th of December and now she's gone, forever, just like that.

She even called one of my friend to ask about some math questions before Chinese New Year.
And we got to know about her liver cancer during the Chinese New Year house-raiding.
But the next thing we got to know about her is: She's gone.

I think she had some early symptoms like discomfort on the stomach and vomiting 2 years ago when we were in Upper 6 but everyone thought it was just normal sickness & took it lightly, including herself.

She got to know about the cancer about 4 months ago but she delayed and was only emitted to hospital during the Chinese New Year, when her condition was at its worst.

I am worried about her boyfriend right now, Mun Sou. Although he looked tough when we saw him yesterday, but I know, deep down inside, he's extremely depressed. He did not manage to be with her when she dies.

During our visit to her funeral in Cheras Xiao En Center, I overheard that she had instant noodles for almost every meal and doesn't eat veggies, maybe that's the reason she got liver cancer.

There, I promised her, that we all will continue doing things that she couldn't managed to accomplish by living a life, better than hers, on her behalf.

I couldn't believe that we are gonna loose you forever, Yun Chi.
So sorry for not being able to attend and walk your last journey this coming afternoon.
May you Rest In Peace, my dear friend.
We will always remember you. =)

I sent my last text message to her, and I cried.


I've 2 close friends who have frequent gastric attacks, Shie Yee & Li Xian, I hope through this valuable lesson, you girls would change your attitude, don't starve yourself. I know I am quite naggy at times but, seriously I don't want this to happen to anyone of you.

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Another friend of mine, Lim Sze Jian, my primary school classmate.
He's that UTAR student who got robbed and assaulted three years ago.

He was on his way back from his part-time job in the night of 19th September 2006, when he was robbed of his cell-phone and got hit on his head while he was trying to fighting back.
He called his father after the attack and was found unconscious at the Masjid Jamek LRT station after that.

He fell into a coma and was warded in Hospital Kuala Lumpur.
We visited him in 2007 and he looked so skinny but he was showing signs of recovery. His parents were very optimistic on his recovery at that time.

He remained in coma and passed away almost 2 years later on Mother's Day, 12th of May 2008. He was 20 too. What a sad tragedy, he is so innocent.

His assaulter has not been apprehended till today.
(Newspaper articles on his incident: 1, 2, 3 )

Sometimes life can be very fragile. Who will know that the person you were talking to at that moment, can die in the next moment.

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In 2005, one of my secondary school counselor (which I had forgotten his name), passed away after fell to his death while trying to save a person who's trapped during a game of Flying Fox at a motivational camp. He was a nice guy.

See, even good people also dies while trying to help the others.

Sometimes life can also be very unfair.
Treasure everyone around you, people.

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In Loving Memories:
Aunt Kuk (Oct 1997)
Grandpa (Jun 1998)
Grandma (Aug 2001)
Grand dad (April 2004)
Mr. Counselor (Mid 2005)
Lim Sze Jian (May 2008)
Lai Yun Chi (Feb 2009)

Some of them passed away of cancers, some died of strokes, some from accidents and some from violence.
They are the precious Life Lessons to us.
People learn through the things they had done right & wrong.

The list will grow on and on, that's no doubt about it.
I know I shouldn't be saying this, but this is the truth.

My words to the next one in the list and also to everyone
please make sure that you live a life, stop doing things that you don't like, be happy, positive and optimistic & most importantly, cherish the people around you, tell them how much you care & love them.

Stop those quarrels, fights & dissatisfaction towards each other.

Who knows, the next person would be one them and you'll definitely regret it.


Lastly, I'm going to be naggy here.

Jiun Yee, eat your veggies!
Shie Yee & Li Xian, remember to eat!
Thiagu, Jiun Kei, Theen Chuan, Trivikram, Syah, just stop smoking!
Catherine Ting, stop eating those instant noodles so frequently!
& Mun Sou, I know, it's hard to take it, but dude, life must go on, be strong!

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Lessons learned:
-Love yourself before you want others to love you-
-Cherish the people around you, tell them how much you care & love them-
-Have a healthy diet-
-Eat less instant noodles-
-Eat your veggies-
-Do not take sickness too lightly-
-Life must go on-